For the most part we are a trusting society. But there are times we have suspicions about someone or something. Women call it ‘intuition’. Men call it a ‘gut feeling’. This does not always mean your suspicions are right. It’s good to get the facts. How do you do that? Depending on the situation, getting the facts could mean, actually confronting the person and just point blank asking. But sometimes this is not a good idea. You might not be told the truth.  Whether a little white lie, or a full blown lie, we are all guilty at one time or another. So here are some things you can do.


Watch body language. This is a good way to learn if someone is not telling the truth. People who are not being truthful will let you know with how they stand, and or fidget. Some won’t look you in the eye. But this one I am about to share with you is a dead giveaway. If you have the chance to talk to someone and confront them face to face with your suspicions? Look deep into their eyes…If they are not telling the truth? Their pupils will dilate quite rapidly. But will dissipate just as quickly, so you have to be on the ball for this one. Blood flows to organs when we get upset, nervous or excited about something. It is the body’s natural reaction. Sometimes a person will have a hard time looking at you when responding. They might look up, to the right or left. And some people always do the same move when telling a lie. Such as tugging on their ear, or rubbing their arm, or scratching their heads. Some people are good at evading the truth, while others are very obvious.


Just remember innocent until proven guilty. Always good to make sure you have your facts straight before confronting someone especially if it is someone you still care about or is a good friend. Always handle such a situation delicately. Once you have spoken the words, you can never take them back.