Sitting endlessly in front of the TV and inhaling holiday food is not the most exquisite or passionate way to celebrate this holiday season with your lover. Your relationship deserves more! Let’s reignite the spark that has always been present between you and your lover. According to the results of a 2009 study published in the academic journal Psychological Science, boredom begets a feeling of greater distance and unhappiness in our intimate relationships. John Gottman’s work found that those couples who create romantic and sensual experiences together tend to have greater sexual and intimate connection.

Here are some sensual and romantic ideas for you to embrace intimacy and creativity in your relationship:

Magical Bubbles


It’s not a secret that most of us associate champagne with luxury, celebration, romance, and sensuality. I observed long queues in the liqueur stores during the Christmas holidays. This time, don’t forget to buy a bottle of bubbly. Do you see what I see? I see a great recipe for a steamy and juicy holiday season. Prepare a bubble bath, decorate it with candles, and don’t forget to use aroma therapy oils or an essential oil diffuser to tease the most powerful of our five senses. Decorate the bathroom with some romantic candles to add an air of mystery – Mm-mm-mm…

Frisky Surprise


There is nothing worse than being a couch-potato during holidays. I know you might be tired after a full year of working hard at the office. Bring balance and creativity back into your relationship. Why not rent a hotel room? Keep the location of the hotel a secret. Only tell your lover to meet you at that secret address. Selflessly concentrate on your soul-mate’s needs for an evening. Surprise is often the key to seduction you. Does this get your imagination flowing?

German-ish Move Night


If you are anything like me, you love and adore your home. If not – let me know and I can consult you on your bedroom design to create your intimate, delicious, and sensual nest that calls for a passionate love affair. Otherwise, put together a romantic love setting with pillows, blankets, and candles.

Pick your favourite sexy movie that will whet your appetite. Want suggestions?

  1. 9 ½ weeks
  2. Basic Instinct
  3. Last Tango in Paris
  4. Wild Orchard

You are probably wondering what’s German about this idea. Well, German Mulled Wine is very dear to me and does miracles for romantic pillow-talk. Just make sure you will not be getting behind the wheel. Here is my favourite recipe.

The Oscar for Best Picture


Why wait for next year’s Halloween to dress up again? Try some role-playing. You could be Santa’s helper who has an executive order to fulfill all of your lover’s desires; or you may want to become James Bond 007. If it feels slightly uncomfortable just go right into the steamy action. Meeting your lover in this get-up will be an adventurous surprise to say the least. We all know that after being together for some time, we tend to stop having this sort of fun. Why wait until the right moment? You can have a fun night at home role playing. If it leads to something sexy and soulful – great. If not – you will definitely have the next best alternative to sex – fun!

“Freaky Friday” Inspired


I hope you saw this great comedy. Try switching roles for the day – how does that sound? Today, you can take on your partners mannerisims, tendencies, and responsibilities: focus on solutions, be more action driven, and slightly audacious. Don’t forget to bring them breakfast in bed and then rip their clothes off in a fever of passion.

Winter Infused Love-Making


Take your lover for an unplanned nighttime ride out of the city. Living in Vancouver (with all of the light pollution), I can barely see the stars. But I always remember the night sky in one Russian village where my grandmother lives. There is something magnetic and mesmerizing about allowing yourself to be devoured by the beauty of the sacred sky sprinkled with stars, especially during winter when everything looks magical.

When was the last time you experienced sensual touch in the car? Probably not since you were a teenager. Turn on some romantic music and relish the power of passion. Do you remember “Sleeping in My Car” by Roxette?

I know that you’ve enjoyed these romantic ideas. If you are looking for an excellent holiday gift for your partner, I have
an upcoming workshop for women that will transform theri life. Learn more about my “Loveshop” here

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