It is possible to be sexy, sexual, and sensual at the same timeas being a respected, and successful woman!

I can not tell you how many times I have debated with myself over how much I should disclose about my sexuality, and how much of my sexuality to show, thinking that it might reduce my credibility as a sex therapist, speaker, writer, and a coach. Something inside me was fearful of other people’s reactions, especially those who view sexuality as promiscuity, and immorality.

I remember the moment when I told myself ‘Stop’. It was the time when I was listening to “The Strangest Secret”, by Earl Nightengale. He said something very profound; “We become what we think about!”, and this caused an intense reaction in my mind. If I resist my sexuality, I will never be a sexual woman. If you do not embrace your sexuality, and take pride in wearing it all the time, you can not expect to play with it, or play with your lover. It is like carrying seeds in your pocket, and coming back to your farm every day, hoping to see that something has grown. You have to plant the seeds, water them, nurture them, and love them.

I want to express my sexuality through my work, writing, art, videos, appearance, and language. I refuse to feel ashamed, or embarrassed about showing it. I do not want to hide it, because it is a huge part of who I am. Sexuality is a power, and energy that is a guiding force in all our lives, mine included. I have come to realize that I can not, and will not hide my sexuality because I am so incredibly proud of it. I know in my soulthat anyone can be a career woman, and still embrace their sexuality
. You can also be a mother, and still nurture, and grow the sensual part of your feminine power.

Sexuality is a power we all have. Some people may not be ready to unleash, and embrace this part of themselves, however this does not mean you have to be ashamed, or feel guilty for embracing yours. I work very hard for my body. I eat clean, exercise, and feed it with spiritual energy. I am in love with my body. I do not care how I look in comparison to somebody else, because there is no one else like me. I am proud, and fearless.

I recently saw Beyoncé’s re-appearance in the public eye after she had given birth. In my opinion, seeing her again celebrating her sexuality, and her personal power since becoming a mother, makes me love, and appreciate her even more.
Her video entitled “Partition” was especially noteworthy. The power of her message was:

“Just because you become a mother doesn’t mean that you lose who you are.”

Many women might disagree because they have not yet found who they are as a sexual being. The reasons why may be rooted in certain beliefs or childhood upbringing. Counselling sessions may provide opportunities to explore the discovery of the power of their sexuality.

“Getting back to my personal sexuality, being proud of growing up, it was always important for me to express that side of me through music. I know that there are so many fabulous women who feel the same thing after they gave birth. You can have a child and still have fun and be sexy, still have a dream and live for yourself”.


“I don’t at all have shame about being sexual. I don’t feel I have to be embarrassed about it and protect this side of me because I do believe that sexuality is the power we all have”.

It is so amazing to have a body that is radiant, and fluid after having a baby. What saddens me is hearing some women view it as a social pressure to go back to achieving a sexy body after pregnancy. It should be a personal choice. Whatever decision you make, it
should be yours, regardless of what you hear, see, or read. That is where the power of sexuality comes in – once you own it, it becomes you, regardless of your marital status, career, position, jeans size, nationality, or age.

Karolina Tatarenkova

Karolina Tatarenkova is an intrepid coach/counsellor
at Passion In Love, author, speaker, entrepreneur, and blogger who is transforming the quality of people’s life by firing their passion in the bedroom. She is a published author, who is currently working on her book. Karolina created #AskKarolina Showto invite people to look at sex and passion differently.

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She has training in clinical sexology, relationship counselling, sex coaching, spirituality, personal development, Tony Robbins programs, and much more. Karolina is a few months away from obtaining her Master’s degree in Counselling Psychology. More on her international education you can find here.